Are you planning on transitioning to a stay at home mom? Are you going from career to stay at home mom? Maybe you already in the process of transitioning.
Becoming a stay at home mom can bring on feelings of fear and overwhelm. It is a big life change and you don’t know what to expect.
Transitioning to a stay at home mom from working mom can be tough at first. As with all things though, it does get better in time.
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Here are 21 tips to help you adjust and make transitioning to a stay at home mom easier:
- Relax the first week. There will be plenty of time to figure everything out. Just take the first week to adjust and enjoy that you now get to stay at home with your child(ren).
- Coffee!! And lots of it! (or tea – whichever you prefer) I do suggest you get a mug warmer because I guarantee you that otherwise, you will be having to warm it back up 3+ times in the microwave!
- Get ready every day. Now, this doesn’t mean you have to put on a full face of makeup. Take a shower, put on something that is comfortable and yet makes you feel pretty, and you can apply some makeup if you would like. You will feel much better than if you lounged in your pajamas every day (do this occasionally though!)
- Create a schedule/routine. This is important because children thrive off of routines. They are much happier when they know what to expect. Yes, it does take time for them to get used to it and they will resist at first. It will be worth it though! I also suggest making routines for yourself (morning, evening, etc.) This will help you to be productive, rather than wandering around all day feeling overwhelmed and not knowing what you should do.
- Keep on top of the housework. Don’t expect to get your house spotless, but be sure to have the basics done at all times. You don’t want the housework to pile up, so much that it leads to anxiety (I have dealt with this personally). Create a cleaning routine for yourself. I like to follow Clean Mama’s cleaning routine because it breaks up cleaning tasks day by day to prevent overwhelm.
- Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Asking for help does not mean that you are a bad or incapable mother. We all need help sometimes. This will help both you and your family. Don’t wear yourself out because that will have a negative effect on everyone.
- Patience. Being a parent, in general, requires a great amount of patience. Kids love to test your patience all of the time. Being a stay at home mom really requires patience because you are with your child(ren) 24/7.
- Vent when you need to. Find someone who you can talk to when you need to vent. Another stay at home mom who will understand what you are going through. Or your mom. If you do not have anyone to physically talk to, then journal your feelings. Either way, you need to get them out in order to make yourself feel less stressed.
- Give yourself grace. Don’t let other’s expectations of you change the expectations you have for yourself. You need to know that your schedule and routines will not always go as planned. Do what you can and let that be enough.
- Get out of the house often/get sunshine. Take it from me, being a stay at home mom can make you go extremely stir-crazy! This can affect your children as well. Make sure to get yourself, as well, as your kids out in the sunshine as often as possible. Also, make sure to get yourself out on your own regularly.
- Remember that you are still an individual. It is very common for stay at home moms to feel like they have lost their identity. I have personally felt this way and that is one of the reasons I started this blog. You are more than “just a mom”. Make sure you are caring for yourself just as much as you are caring for your family.
- Get a hobby. What did you enjoy doing before you became a mom? Maybe you feel as though those things are too time-consuming. Either, make time to participate in those activities, or think of other hobbies that you can dedicate small amounts of time to. It is important to have some kind of a hobby in order to keep from feeling like you are “just a mom”.
- Keep in touch with friends. This can become a difficult task once you become a mother. Unfortunately, relationships do tend to change when someone has a child and their other friends do not. Your lives become more difficult to relate to and thus the friendships may slowly come to an end. If this happens to you, find new friends that are moms themselves. Then you will have someone who can relate to the things you go through as a mom.
- Create goals for yourself. Have personal goals for yourself to work towards. This is another tip for preventing the feeling that you are nothing more than a mom.
- Do something for yourself every day (self-care). I am sure you have heard it before. If you do not take proper care of yourself, how can you expect to care for anyone else? Make self-care a routine. Even if you just take 15 minutes a day to do something for yourself, by yourself. Doing so will make life better for yourself, as well as your family because you will be a happier person for it.
- Talk to your husband about all that you do, so he understands that you work all day too. Keep communication open between the two of you, especially when it comes to what you both spend your day doing. If not, feelings of resentment can begin to arise. Both of you need to realize that you are both working hard each and every day. That needs to be recognized and appreciated by each person.
- Regular date night with S.O. Get a sitter at least once a month, so that the two of you can have a date night out together. Don’t have a sitter? That’s okay! Plan a date night at home. After the kids go to bed you can make a nice dinner and then after, watch a movie or play some games together (this is what my husband and I would do when our son was little).
- Spend time with your kids – be mindful/present. As moms, we tend to have a million and one things constantly running through our minds (especially if you deal with anxiety as I do). It is important that we spend quality time with our kids and be in the moment with them as we do so. I know this can be really difficult, but try your best to only think about/focus on the activity at hand.
- Enjoy the little things. Take notice and feel joy over the little things. These things can be the sound of your child laughing, the feeling of hugging them, and exchanging “I love yous”.
- Take it day by day. Some days will be better than others. Had a rough day? Remember that’s not how it always will be and look forward to starting anew the next day.
- Enjoy it! As I’m sure you know, kids grow up way too fast! Enjoy each season of life with them because before you know it, you’ll be moving onto the next one and you can’t get it back.
Which of these tips did you find the most helpful with transitioning to a stay at home mom?
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